Imagine you're dead. You just died. What has your life added up to? What do you regret not doing or feeling or apologizing for? What connections did you intend to make but never did? How did you leave things with friends and family? And what feels complete, well-done, whole?
Take yourself all the way from right now to the end of your life. Who are you at the end? This is the most rigorous, honest appraisal of yourself you will make. Repeat this exercise over and over, make it a habit of mind, until it is second nature. Your priorities will remain aligned if you do.